In a previous article, I stressed the importance of creating Emotional Independence in your relationship in order to keep it healthy and to assure that each of you has the freedom to take charge of your own emotional well-being. While this first key can be your foundation for attaining a state of happiness in your relationship, there are two other keys to be considered that will further contribute to having a successful connection with your partner.

The second key to capturing a healthy relationship is Being True to Your Self. This means that you get in touch with your genuine feelings and you don’t deny them. You operate in alignment with your True Self – not the conditioned person you may appear to be, but the authentic You.

Of course, in order to do this, you must do some soul-searching, and some shedding of layers that no longer serve you or your Higher Truth. Instead of coming from a place where your beliefs were honed into you, find your essence and your authentic beliefs.

The more you pursue and attain this state of being true to your Self, the clearer you will be when choosing a mate. Or if you are already part of a couple, you will begin to realize what is right for you and what goes against Who You Are.

The third key is being Honest about Who You Are. This means that you present yourself as genuine. The only way to pull this off is if you are coming from your True Self and behaving and expressing in alignment with that Truth.

You have nothing to gain and everything to lose if you deny who you are, or even worse, sacrifice who you are, just so you get or keep the man you think you want. Essentially, if you do this, you are living a lie. And believe me when I tell you, this lie will catch up with you one way or another.

Once it does, you will find yourself in a pile of despair, a heap of turmoil, and a whirlwind of chaos. You will be left desolate and empty within yourself and most likely alone even if you remain in your relationship.

While there are other factors that contribute to the health and welfare of a thriving relationship and a viable dynamic, these three keys are at the top of the list as they are the ones most often overlooked or denied, much to the detriment of you and your relationship.

So I wish you health, happiness, and love, but remember… you can’t have one without the other.

Here’s to growing healthy relationships and evolving into your True Self.

In Loving Light,

Dr. Pamela