The true purpose of any healthy relationship is to become more of Who You Really Are. Through providing a reflection of different aspects of your Self, your mate serves to facilitate your process of developing yourself to a greater degree. Sometimes, your coming together serves as a reminder of Who You Are – sometimes it becomes your Wake Up Call!

In all cases, you strive to complete yourself through your being dynamically and romantically involved with another. Essentially, you are being provided with the opportunity to “find your Self” as you grow in love with your partner.

Why then are so many women doing the opposite, and rather than becoming, they’re actually losing themselves in their unions with men? Why would any woman feel that her total self-denial would lead to her greatest happiness?

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We all want to receive support of some kind – whether spiritual, mental, emotional, physical, or financial. Usually we expect that support to come from our loved ones, although there are times when we would like it from the world at large. And in our moments of struggle, we demand it from the Universe.

But exactly what is this support that we all crave, and what form should it take in our relationships? Are women and men supposed to give the same kind of support to each other? Or are there differences?

What is the right kind of support? What is a healthy amount that sustains you and still enables you to be independent in the important ways?

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Who doesn’t remember the words to that wonderfully expressed song by Tina Turner – “What’s Love Got to Do With It?” It is a valid question through the ages and particularly when it comes to relationships – romantic and otherwise.

As a therapist, I am privy to the yearnings and longings and pleas of all women. A universal theme seems to pervade the unhealthy dynamics of all concerned. I can’t tell you the countless times I’ve heard women describe the most disturbing and distorted behaviors displayed between them and their mate.

Now while it’s not my role to actually tell each client what they should do, it is my place to point out to them all the areas that are out of alignment and help guide them to a graceful resolution.

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